Dear Amy: My father has realized his memory is failing and is using this to whitewash his questionable parenting skills. Now I have no closure or recourse on events like his racist outburst of 2012 that led me to a very awkward Thanksgiving in a house full of people I did not know. My dad will even see if his partner remembers an incident, and if she doesn’t remember, then it definitely didn’t happen; but she is apt to ignore it like it didn’t happen just to move off the subject. I don’t need an apology (not that it would come), but it is just a new insult on top of an old one. It makes me resentful when he literally says I must be wrong because: 1.