Dear Amy: I’m a 42-year-old man who has been married to my wife for 14 years. We started out fairly well, but over the years, more and more arguments emerged. Now we have three young kids, and have devolved into the Odd Couple. She is a downright slob (really bad, even by her own admission) and I’m more of a normal clean-type. I can’t keep cleaning the house all by myself, and it gets so disgusting that I’m embarrassed by it. We do have some great times, but I just feel like I love her as a friend and can’t stand living with her. I’m somewhat into staying fit and I work out to maintain a good look and heart health.