Dear Amy: My 30-year-old son returned to live at home from several states away. He has a college degree, is handsome, charming, and quick-witted. His former position with a well-known insurance company ended when the contract ran out. Initially I thought he would be living at home for two or three weeks, but we have now hit 12 weeks. I am getting frustrated, as he seems to have become very comfortable with not really doing much to help around the house, and not helping with utilities. He is going to interviews often, but hasn’t been offered a position yet. We have always been very close, but this has put a wedge between us. I am also raising my 12-year-old grandson, and have my elderly parents here.