With the schedule your husband is working, you should have time in the mornings and evenings to spend with each other — plus Sundays. [...] if your days are spent sitting around at home, then what you need to do is find an activity to fill your lonely hours. If that’s not possible, look around for volunteer opportunities in your community. Worthwhile organizations can always use a helping hand. Due to the distance and other family obligations, I won’t be able to attend my sister “Sara’s” wedding. Is it proper to still participate in all of the bridal party activities, planning the shower, throwing a bachelorette party, etc., even though I cannot attend the ceremony? Should I try to travel there the weekend before to help with any last-second preparations for the ceremony? The relationship between sisters is supposed to last a lifetime. Dear Abby: I like to wear a suit and tie to a church where most people dress casually. People who make judgmental comments about your attire are not worth the effort.