Dear Amy: I recently found out that my partner of two years has herpes and has transmitted it to me. I moved into her house about four months ago. While moving some things around in her garage, I inadvertently came across a doctor’s report showing that she had it. When I confronted her with the information, she said she had gotten it 10 years ago from her ex-husband. She did not tell me (and I did not ask) when our relationship began. I have incurable leukemia and an infection from a herpes outbreak could kill me.