Dear Amy: I am a groom-to-be. My fiancee and I grew up eight hours away from each other. My mother and my fiancee are close. Several months ago, my mom planned a bridal shower in my hometown. My fiancee’s family was annoyed, upset and somewhat hostile about this, thinking that my mother was trying to usurp their role. My mother had assumed that they would also host a bridal shower in their hometown. They said they have never heard of someone having more than one bridal shower.