Dear Amy: I have not spoken to my mother in two weeks. She does not approve of my sexuality as gender-queer and she does not “approve” of my partner. She has sent him vicious and threatening letters, called me at all hours of the day and night and sent a variety of harassing text messages, saying, “You are a joke,” “I want you out of my life” and “You are why I have cancer.” I find this behavior abusive.