Dear Amy: Do I have a say if I don’t want my boyfriend’s two children to live with us? I am childless at the moment (going to college), and do not want this to affect my budget. I am supportive, and he has joint custody. I just cannot commit to being a full-time mom to other children when I don’t even have my own. I know what I signed up for, but I’ve seen great fathers that don’t live with their children (like my dad). — Wondering Woman Dear Wondering: No, you don’t have a say.