Dear Amy: I’ve been married for four years. My husband is a good man. He’s really good to me, but lately it feels like our marriage is in a rut. We don’t have any children, so I feel that some our attention should be focused on “us,” but he stays on his computer all day, and when he’s not on his computer, he’s got his nose in his phone. I’m all about letting him have his “you time,” so I let him do his own thing, and I go and do my own things, but I would still like some “us” time every now and again.