Dear Amy: My wife and I are struggling on how to handle our relationship with our new daughter-in-law. No matter what, it seems impossible to draw her into the fold of our family and to shower her with love and affection. She is moody and often cold and indifferent. She and my son live a couple of hours away in a major city, and both of them have big jobs that keep them busy. Unfortunately, we are forced to compete for their time with her parents, who live much closer to them.