Dear Amy: I have a question about my daughter. She and I were estranged from the time she was 16 until she was 28. I don’t know why this estrangement happened. I haven’t asked — and I won’t. We’re back together now, and now we have the relationship I’ve always wanted. She visited me for a week over the holidays and we had a wonderful time. She and I are going to Ireland on holiday in October. I’m concerned that I might do the same thing that alienated her years ago, but not knowing what it was, I can’t monitor my behavior against it. Should I ask her to tell me if I annoy her?