Comment on Ask Amy: Couple copes with texts and subtexts

Amy Dickinson, Denver Post: Living
Mon, 08/02/2021 - 3:30am

Ask Amy: Couple copes with texts and subtexts

Dear Amy: I recently went on a two-week vacation with my husband “Rob,” and “Patsy,” the wife of another couple we have traveled with in the past. The husband did not want to go on this particular trip, so it was just the three of us. From the first day, my husband was fawning all over Patsy, while completely ignoring me. The three of us were communicating on a group text, but on the second day of the trip she said, “Oh, Rob just texted me,” but when I looked at my phone, I didn’t see a text, so I asked him why he sent a text to her alone, instead of using the group text. He said he doesn’t know how to get on the group text, which is a lie because he was on the group text as recently as two days before. When we got home (call it “women’s intuition”), I just had a feeling that he was still texting her, so I looked on my phone’s activity log and sure enough he was. Apparently, Patsy sent Rob pictures of me and her from the trip, but never sent the photos to me, which I thought was very odd. I approached him about it, and he got angry with me and called me “insecure.” I’ve had issues with him before, due to him going onto dating websites, so I guess I am insecure! Luckily, Patsy lives out of state so I don’t think an affair would happen, but I see this as emotional cheating. How can I get him to stop? Related Articles Ask Amy: Dad is sad that wife has become “mom” Ask Amy: Saying “no” to pushy house guests is seasonal Ask Amy: Woman feels the tick tock biological clock Ask Amy: Husband has a “mommy” problem Ask Amy: A broken couple pretends to be “whole” – Tested, not Texted Dear Tested: If your husband has been cruising dating sites while married to you, and now has a habit of testing your trust by feigning ignorance about how to send or reply to a group text, then I’d venture an educated guess and say that there is no way for you to get him to stop being himself. I wouldn’t go so far as to call this “emotional cheating,” because he doesn’t seem to demonstrate an emotional involvement with “Patsy,” and to be fair — she sent the photo and text to him. If your description is accurate, this seems more a case of a guy who perhaps gets a little charge out of connecting with women who are pointedly not you.

 

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