Dear Amy: My husband of many years, “Franklin,” has a strategy of lying to me in order to get his way or avoid confrontation. Three examples, all this week: We make an annual, very substantial contribution to an arts organization where he’s on the board. When I reviewed this, he told me that most of the board members give this amount (if not more). I then discovered that we give 20-times more than most of the other board members. Franklin was planning a party.