Dear Amy: How should I react to some of the baffling requests for gifts and money when invited to wedding showers, weddings, and baby showers? I just received an invitation for my niece’s baby shower (my sister is her mom). Request number one was for a book instead of a card. OK, fine, but she is asking people to give this, along with a gift. She then offered for guests to enter in a raffle if they would bring a package of diapers.