Mom and sister join forces to dictate wedding party When I told Mom that Gina was coming, her response was she would come “some other time.” Abby, Mom has been remarried for more than 30 years and has spent time with Gina before this. From this outsider’s perspective, you have done nothing wrong — but they have. Dear Abby: I recently started volunteering at a wonderful organization and was asked to assist the board with a special project. At the initial meeting with two of the board members, everything was going well until the first board member excused himself and the other one immediately began to bad-mouth the person who had left the room. Neither board member knows me at all. At least three board members have recently quit because of this person. If one board member starts bad-mouthing another, excuse yourself.