About a decade ago, I had a job offer from a major daily newspaper in Oklahoma. Professionally, it was a good opportunity. The publisher wouldn’t give me a job description when I asked for it. “That’s up to you,” she told me. “Make it whatever you want it to be.” It’s hard to turn down a job in which you get to decide the path of a position. But when the time came to either accept the offer or not, I couldn’t do it.