Dear Amy: My 94-year-old mother passed away in January. She was very specific about her grave marker because she was sensitive about her age. She said she didn’t want any dates listed, only her name, and just her name. Since then my siblings have added her death date (because it doesn’t give her age) as well as “beloved wife/mother/grandmother/great-grandmother.” She loved her kids and her grandchildren but never knew the others and really didn’t care much about them. Now they want to add my father’s name!