Dear Abby: I am a full-time mother of three young children and have been married for nine years. Since the beginning, my husband has pushed to have things “his way.” [...] I’m pleased that you and your husband are talking to a licensed therapist, because it may help to save your marriage. Many couples watch “explicit” sex DVDs together because it improves their sex lives. Depending upon the content of the ones your husband is watching, it could add spice to your sex life. [...] because it is making you uncomfortable, this is something that should be discussed with your therapist so you won’t feel coerced into anything you can’t handle.