Six years ago, not long after I announced to my family that I was going to be married, my parents decided to divorce because Dad had been cheating on Mom. Because I allowed him to walk me down the aisle, she didn’t attend my wedding. What makes this even more awkward is that she lives a stone’s throw away, and my teenage daughter is close with her. If I’m outside when she drops my daughter off, she hides her face or pulls up in front of a big tree in my yard so she can’t see me. Sending the greeting cards is a minimal way to maintain contact, and you could continue doing it. Dear Must Earn the Right: I agree that your wife must be a part of the solution. Because the old “pay for play” no longer suits you, the place to seek help would be the office of a licensed marriage counselor.