How do I handle the mealtime dilemma? (She doesn’t cook.) I don’t want her to feel as if she’s our live-in maid or that we’re mean about the meals we prepare. After your daughter-in-law arrives, schedule a family meeting during which everyone’s household responsibilities will be discussed. If necessary, create a chart to keep track of them. Do not overload her, and make sure she understands that you and your husband also have chores. Because she’s a picky eater, ask her to list what items she wants in the house. If she’s interested, offer to show her how to prepare some of the dishes your son has always enjoyed because it would be a nice surprise for him once he returns. [...] arrange monthly meetings, so that if adjustments need to be made, they can be done without hurt feelings or misunderstandings. If you want this to work and are all willing to communicate and listen, you should be able to accomplish your goal without your daughter-in-law feeling like the maid.