People we see think we’re married or seriously dating and have asked about it. Roger says he’s seeing only me, but he’s on a dating website every night instant messaging younger women and talking to them for hours. [...] I’m attractive and accomplished. Roger has made it no secret that he’s comfortable with the relationship as it is and doesn’t intend for it to progress. (Nowhere did you mention that you are in love with him.) I do think that after all this time you should ask him why the relationship hasn’t become sexual. Could she have been born and raised in a culture in which early marriage and motherhood are expected of women? With her mind set, I don’t think you will win an argument with her over this. Be patient with her, and when she raises the subject, point out that women of your generation are expected to complete their education and be able to support themselves financially before they marry in case the need arises later (i.e.