If we tease him back, he gets mad and starts yelling. If she confronts him when he gets out of hand, he starts yelling, “What? I didn’t do anything!” Then later, he’ll come back and try to push or kick her. If you want to help your brother, talk to your mother about getting professional help for your brother now, before he hurts someone. If he doesn’t have a pediatrician, the county department of mental health can suggest someone. When she calls us while she’s driving, how do we diplomatically tell her to hang up and drive? Dear Abby: I have terminal cancer and a five- to seven-year life expectancy, despite undergoing intense chemotherapy. [...] I cannot look forward to family outings or get-togethers. Dear Contented: I’m sorry for your diagnosis, and for the fact that your daughters cannot get along — even to give you comfort as your end approaches. In your case, a logical question would be, “Cared about what?” When you respond that you no longer care about living, the person will feel uncomfortable and try to say something positive. Unless you want to invite a long discussion, handle it by saying thank you.