New mother doesn’t want old rival in her baby’s life Dear Abby: I had a baby girl with my longtime best friend, Adam. Six weeks before April was born, Adam began seeing a girl we both knew from high school. Adam believes it’s not fair to push her out of the room when April is around, and that Jenny should be a part of family events reserved for parents and the child, like taking formal pictures and such. Am I irrational or crazy?