Adapted from a recent online discussion. Yes, the ones their kids dread having to celebrate but celebrate anyway because it’s easier to show up for a few hours than it is to risk the silent treatment/crapstorm/guiltstorm by pointing out that all previous celebrations have devolved into sniping and tears. I think you probably already know this. I agree with you that people are generally happier when they don’t react to every little thing and instead grasp that not every obstacle is a personal attack by the Fates.