Dear Amy: My brother’s girlfriend is four months pregnant. She told him that it might be his or one other man’s baby. There’s no way to tell who the father is, until after the baby is born. What do I tell my 9-year-old daughter? I don’t want my daughter to get excited about a new cousin, and then have to let her down. If it’s my brother’s baby, I’d love to throw his girlfriend a baby shower and come to the hospital after the baby is born to see the baby.