Dear Amy: I’m trying to learn how to set boundaries, but still be respectful and not resentful or hateful. I recently had a huge rift with my mother concerning our family’s decision about whether our teenage child should attend in-person school. My husband, child and I made the decision together, and we are good with it. My immediate family is happy with this decision, but my mother is not. My whole life, she has verbally abused me.