Dear Amy: My older sister and her family are survivors of suicide. My nephew killed himself on his father’s birthday, eight years ago. The pain and grief have been deep and endless. My sister and I are close. I’ve stood by her side during the darkest of times. After all this time, she puts on a happy face but is prone to flashes of anger toward me and others. When I talk with her about my (relatively) small struggles, such as a job loss, or difficult relationships, my sister always has to “top” my own struggles by ending with, “Well, at least you don’t have a dead kid,” or some other similar retort. It’s feeling like a competition.