Dear Amy: I have been with my husband for 23 years. It took me many years to trust him, due to his past behavior where he lied to me and was with other women. Honestly, it took me over 20 years to finally trust him, but this was a mistake. Recently, he started acting suspiciously, again. In the past, I never looked in his phone, but this time I decided to look at his text messages. He was planning to take a single woman camping for a weekend.