Dear Amy: My husband was recently laid off from a company he’d worked at for 15 years. He also recently had surgery. He also has high blood pressure. While I am the primary income earner, if his income is not replaced, it will require us to make changes in some key expenses. I have tried to give him time to process this, even though I am the kind of person who (for good or bad) moves straight into solutions. It has been eight weeks since the layoff, and when I forward a job opening that looks interesting, or try to talk about him networking, he asks me not to, saying it increases his stress. I think he wants me to just trust him to work through this. I do trust him, but I feel this is something we should work through together.