Dear Amy: I am a recent college grad, home (for now) looking for full-time work. I’m looking to move somewhere new, make new friends, and live my young adult life to its fullest. While home and job hunting, I have spent the summer reconnecting with an old friend/flame, “Toby.” Toby and I have been talking casually on and off for a little over a year. When we didn’t see eye to eye in what we were looking for in a romantic partner, we decided to remain friends instead, something I am proud of. Toby is leaving the U.S.