Dear Amy: I am a 23-year-old female. Recently, my grandfather (my mother’s father) died. He and I were estranged due to his ongoing molestation of me and my cousin, culminating in him raping me when I was 11. He was never punished, but I had no further contact with him. I have been promised an inheritance after his death, which I am really looking forward to, as I need the money for a therapist.