Ask Amy: We All Pitched In For My Sister’s Wedding. Apparently, It Wasn’t Enough.

Dear Amy: A wedding dilemma: My sister recently had a small wedding, and all of our family members were involved and pitched in. I planned and paid for her shower, our mother made a beautiful wedding cake, and our uncle officiated (he is a pastor). Additionally, we all gave them shower gifts and wedding gifts, including gifts of cash to be put toward their honeymoon (they had asked for this). My sister and her new husband just sent an email to our immediate family, more or less berating us for not giving them more — or larger — gifts. We are pretty shocked and don’t know how to react.