Dear Amy: My 21-year-old grandson, who lives in another state, has let it be known to everyone that I’m responsible for his mother facing a murder charge. When the police phoned to inform me that my daughter was missing and was being sought in a murder case, I answered all of their questions truthfully, fearing that she might have also been shot. I was in shock and volunteered some information that I should not have, such as that my daughter had previously made threats against the victim. I had no idea my comments on the phone were being recorded.