Dear Amy: My daughter is getting married in a year. The wedding is a long way off, but the nightmares are already beginning. My daughter isn’t the problem, but my mother is! When I got married my mother informed me it was NOT my wedding, but a celebration she was putting together and therefore she would call all the shots, which she did. I barely remember any of it because I really wasn’t involved in the planning. Now she is starting this with my daughter. We live about 2,000 miles away from my mom, at my husband’s insistence.