Dear Amy: Numerous sports stars and celebrities have recently disclosed that they have anxiety, depression and/or bipolar disorder. These people have amazing strength and courage. However, countless others live in secrecy, refusing to disclose their illness to even close friends or family members. Spouses of people with mental illness must maintain this secrecy, for fear of repercussions. Even with medication, proper diet, exercise, etc., people with mental illness can relapse.