Dear Amy: My Mom is 90-years-old and has had a hoarding/messy home problem, gambling addiction, and money issues for the past 25 years. She is a compulsive shopper and was shopping almost every day when she was driving. Last year she had a minor car accident that totaled her car, so she does not drive anymore and depends on me to take her for groceries, errands, doctor appointments, etc. I had to clean out her car, which was so full of stuff that it took me five hours to clean it out.