Dear Amy: I am not pretending to be a saint, but was I wrong to end my “on again/off again” involvement with a married man in the way I did? After suspecting that he wasn’t being very truthful to me, I dug up some information about him online, which was basically glaring evidence just sitting there for online sleuths like myself to uncover. We had always been friends and for the most part he took care of me in ways I didn’t demand.