Dear Amy: My husband and I married later in life, after both of us swore we would never marry. Cupid hit us both over the head when I was 38 and he was 42, and after 5 years together, we tied the knot. We never explicitly discussed having children before or after getting married; we really only said, “if it happens, great, if not, fine,” and we did not use any form of birth control. A year ago, I was diagnosed with uterine cancer and had emergency hysterectomy surgery very quickly after my diagnosis. Since then, I have found myself deeply grieving this loss.