Dear Amy: I have a marriage question. I have taken a sort of “vow of silence” around my husband of 40 years. I am not giving him “the silent treatment.” I respond to questions, provide the occasional benign observation, and try to make statements of support. He finds a way to contradict virtually anything I say. I could observe trees swaying gently in the wind, say, “It seems breezy today,” and he would reply, “No, it isn’t.